We are so strong! Regardless of the gender. Going through abuse is so hard in so many ways. But look at you all! Reaching out and finding your voice! Whether you have left or are still in the relationship, I want you to remember that you are surviving! For those of you who left, props, that is so hard to do. I know, it took me a year, seven times. But when it starts getting hard, just remember that you survived the worst of it! The hardest part is over! You are making it. Just take one step at a time. For those of you still in the relationship, you are so brave to be reaching out on here like you are, you know somethings not quite right and sometimes just taking this first step is the hardest thing to do. I remember sneaking onto my computer, frantically posting, trying to make sense of things, and these wonderful people understand, we all understand what your going through. I got out, it took a lot. He took a lot every time I tried to leave. BUT HE CANT TAKE ANYMORE FROM ME NOW! YOU have a VOICE, and you deserve to be heard!No matter what step in your journey you are at, don’t feel ashamed, we have all been there, in different situations, but with painfully similar effects. Remember how far you have come. We are strong! No one can take that away from us. I thought he took it away from me, but it was just buried. Remember what your fighting for No one EVER deserves abuse.