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The world makes way for the man who knows where he is going.
Take control of your life...
Abuse is spiteful and degrading... no one deserves it.
Abuse devastates body, mind and spirit no matter whether the target of the abuser is male or female; no matter whether the type of abuse is physical, mental, emotional, spiritual or financial. There are no differences among the broken hearts and wounded souls of all.
"Emotional abuse is underneath all other types of abuse.
The most damaging aspect of abuse is the trauma to our hearts and souls from being
betrayed by the people that we love and trust." - Robert Burney
What is different, however, are the familial, social, and lawful reactions to the gender of the battered person and how each live, cope, survive and thrive. Battered men do react differently and are treated differently by society than are battered women. The opposite is also true.
Are you here because you are being abused? Do you think you might be, but aren't sure? Is someone you know in an abusive relationship and you want to help?
Are you planning to leave or want to leave an abusive relationship and you need support? Do you want to leave but you are afraid or don't know how to go about it?
Are you here because you have recently ended an abusive relationship and you need to understand what happened to you, how it happened, why it happened and how you can best reclaim your life?
You are not the only one. You are not alone. The door has finally opened for abused men. More and more men are speaking up and letting the world know that women are just as likely to be abusers, bullies and personality disordered abusive.
The users, abusers & bullies...
You're here because you want answers. Either you know you're being abused or you think you might be abused, but you aren't sure. You will find your answers in this site:
1) You will determine if you are being abused
2) If you are, you will understand why it happened
3) You will find the tools you need to make sure it never happens again
Definition of abuse for domestic and intimate relationships: Abuse is when someone in a caring relationship does or says things to gain control over another person by hurting that person or causing feelings such as fear, anxiety, nervousness, guilt, helplessness or worthlessness.
Abuse is not, however, limited to domestic or intimate relationships. Abuse occurs at work and in elder-care facilities. Children are abused by sport coaches and in day-care centers. Animals are horrifically used and abused. Abuse can happen at church, in a bank or at the grocery store.
No one and no living thing is safe from the possibility of a bully, a psychopath or personality disordered person trying to take advantage, do harm, use or manipulate for their own benefit.
Abuse always begins with you...
It's the last thing you want to hear when you're being treated like garbage and it sounds incredulous... but it is the absolute truth. How often have you asked...
Why do I let myself be treated like this?
Emotionally healthy people have a strong sense of self-worth. They are self-aware. They are in control of how they allow other people to treat them and inter-act with them. Healthy people have positive self-esteem and maintain good, strong boundaries which they do not allow to be crossed. They also ensure that other people earn their trust... it is not a free gift bestowed upon just anyone who comes along.
Conversely, abused people usually have low self-esteem. They have difficulty setting and maintaining personal boundaries. Abused people often doubt their own gut instincts, allowing themselves to be taken advantage of. They trust easily and forgive without hesitation.
People who become abused are nice folks! They are intelligent, thoughtful and are, very often, extremely creative. They bring beauty to our world.
People who become abused are sensitive people. They are gentle and kind-hearted, They understand other people's emotions and are able to empathize and sympathize with them. They truly care about other people's feelings. They are compassionate.
There is nothing wrong with you or any other abused person. A person who becomes abused is simply a person who needs to do some work on self-awareness; develop their sense of self-worth & self-esteem. You need to learn what your boundaries are and how to enforce them.
It is work... no doubt about it. But it's ALL to your benefit - yours and yours alone. The end result is that you will never become involved in another abusive relationship again whether it be intimate, domestic, at work, in a social setting or anywhere else.
Want to help an abused friend or family member? If you have a friend, co-worker or family member whom you believe is being abused please browse through our site.
You'll gain an in-depth understanding of exactly what he is living with on a daily basis. You'll be better prepared to offer him a kind heart and a helping-hand rather than inadvertently re-victimizing him with a lack of knowledge and insight as to how abuse destroys a person piece by piece. You can also join our support forum to read more and talk about it.
