Hi...

Not sure what to do. I am friends with a man who has told me a few things about what his wife has said and done to him, and started thinking that maybe he was being abused. This website and its links have helped me see that I might be right...there are a lot of things I can answer 'yes' to, just based on the few things he has told me about. I'm sure there must be many things he has not told me about.

Should I suggest this site to him? Show him the content? Or, does he need to come to the conclusion on his own? What should I say to him? I just shake my head in shock...because, you see, I can remember being in the same place.

I was abused by my former spouse~felt lost and confused and worthless, and like nothing I could do was right...I was only told when I did something wrong. It was like trying to play a complex game like Monopoly but without knowing the rules...only being told when I was doing something wrong. My friend's marriage sounds a lot like that.

I guess I don't know how much to try to help him, and how much to just leave alone. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

Thank you very much!!

(deleted for fear I put him at risk)